Do it for love


IMG_6643As I was putting my boys in the car yesterday, one of them said he wanted to sit in the seat  without the car seat. Of course, I said no, and then I almost said, “It’s against the law,” but something stopped me. Instead, I told him that the car seat was the safest place for him to sit.

I felt the need to make the distinction because I haven’t forgotten that Joey refused to wear a seat belt. I understood his reasoning. I get that he didn’t think the government should tell him how to protect himself. I actually agree, but if the government made it illegal to jump off a bridge, jumping to my death is probably not the smartest form of protest.

My point is that even though I completely disagree with the right of the government to require me to wear a seat belt and put my children in car seats, I still do it. I do it because I love my children. I do it because I love my husband and my parents. I do it because they love me.

And if I could go back and say just one thing to my brother, it would be, “DON’T wear a seat belt because it’s the law; DO wear it because I love you.”

I’ll never know if wearing a seat belt would have saved Joey’s life on that horrible night of June 24th. And I can’t go back, but I can make the right choices when I’m behind the wheel and teach my kids to do the same. But I want to always recognize WHY we make good choices. Not out of fear of legal consequences but because we have been entrusted with the gift of life, and we should do all in OUR power to protect it.


Please note: I do not blame Joey for getting killed by a reckless, possibly intoxicated driver. If that dude had stayed home or let someone else drive, my seatbelt-less brother would still be alive. He is to blame, not Joey.

2 responses »

  1. Speaking of laws.. If the police would’ve kept this guy locked up after his numerous charges and drunk driving arrests perhaps a tragedy could’ve been avoided. Better, if the human condition allowed some people to learn after having a lesson beaten into their skull enough times, perhaps he would’ve been intelligent/concerned enough for other peoples safety that he would’ve chosen to not drive. People are naturally self absorbed and reckless when it comes to other peoples lives. Reckless, apparently when it comes to their lives and the lives of the loved ones they drive around with. People feel entitled to do whatever they want, after all, for example, driving is my right! Some people BELONG in a cage to protect the rest of us from the consequences of their actions. That’s not an easy thing to say or an easy conclusion to come to after considering myself an anarchist for so long and preaching about ultimate personal freedom and freedom from detention and freedom from living in fear of being locked in a cage. Unfortunately some people go so far out of their way to defy logic and endanger everyone around them that the only option is to permanently put that person in a cage for their own safety and the safety of others.

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